Don’t Find Others’ Faults – Fix Your Focus Instead

Imagine you're walking down a path, and you notice a tiny rock in someone else's shoe. You keep pointing at it, telling them they should fix it. Meanwhile, you're limping—because there's a stone in your own shoe.

Funny how that works, right?

We live in a world where it's become almost second nature to point out what someone else is doing wrong. Whether it’s a colleague missing a deadline, a friend who forgot to reply, or a family member who made a poor decision—we’re quick to spot their faults, and slow to reflect on our own.

But here’s the twist: fault-finding is not a reflection of the other person. It’s a mirror of our mindset.

🌱 Why Are We So Quick to Judge?

1. It feels easier
   It’s easier to highlight someone else’s shortcomings than to work on our own growth. Finding fault gives us a false sense of superiority.

2. It’s a habit
   Many of us have grown up in environments where criticism is common. Over time, we adopt the same patterns.

3. It masks our insecurities
   Pointing fingers at others often covers up the areas we feel inadequate in.

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🔍 The Problem with Fault-Finding

Constantly criticizing others can damage relationships, breed negativity, and keep us stuck in a loop of dissatisfaction. It prevents us from growing emotionally and mentally. The more we look for flaws in others, the less we work on our own character.

It’s like watering weeds and expecting flowers.

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🌟 Choose Self-Reflection Over Fault-Finding

Next time you’re tempted to highlight someone’s fault, ask yourself:

• Is this helping anyone grow, or just making me feel better for a moment?

• Am I seeing a real issue, or am I projecting something from within?

• Can I respond with kindness or curiosity instead of criticism?

When you shift from judgment to understanding, your relationships deepen and your perspective broadens.

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✅ Practical Ways to Break the Habit

1. Practice Empathy
   Try to understand the “why” behind someone’s actions before jumping to conclusions.

2. Catch Yourself
   Become aware of when you're judging. That awareness alone is the first step toward change.

3. Flip the Focus
   Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with them?”, ask, “What can I learn from this?”

4. Journal Your Triggers
   Note when and why you get irritated with others. Often, you’ll discover patterns that lead back to you.

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🧘‍♀️ Inner Peace Begins with Inner Work

The happiest people aren’t those who live in a perfect world. They’re the ones who focus on building a better self instead of pointing out everyone else's cracks.

So the next time you catch someone making a mistake, pause. Breathe. And remember:

It’s far more powerful to be a builder than a breaker.

Let’s fix our focus. Let’s grow ourselves. Let’s stop finding faults—and start finding understanding.

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Have you ever caught yourself fault-finding out of habit? Share your thoughts or experiences in the comments below—let's grow together. 🌱💬

Find Your Inner Treasure

 

Almighty has given us a super powerful brain, which we have to know how to use,

Always keep your mind engaged in useful task; do not let it go idle. life is soo beautiful, take it seriously and respect it.

The task of spiritual growth is before you, you would have to lead it; the time is very short, don't forgot your Inner power ;Listen and try to understand your Inner voice, if you are led astray by your own negligence, you alone  will have to pay the price

Patience and hope will enable you to face any situation. It is your responsibility to cultivate courtesy, empathy and compassion, Address the glaring flaws in yourself First, Discipline yourself, Without discipline you cannot experience your true nature, curtesy, empathy, simplicity and compassion are all manifestations of this true nature.

Stand on your own feet  and challenge the entire world if you need to, but you should only be satisfied after attaining your highest goals. When others look outside for worldly treasure, look inside for the treasure within yourself. Disregard how others treat you and stay focused on your own growth, if you can grasp this, you have understood this great treasure.

!!! Thank You !!! 

Loneliness is strength

 

       Are you afraid of loneliness, or do you enjoy being alone?

Do you think that today I will do party alone, or do you think that today I will go to see a movie alone, I will eat my favorite food, and Listen my deary song.

You live in fun alone, it doesn't matter whether someone is with you or not, you enjoy life to the fullest, You are absolutely blissful, no matter what others say, I am right and doing right, you believe in your own.

                                                     If  Yes

Then you are the most immortal man in the world, you are completely different from others, you are capable of making your own identity.

No one can stop you from being successful. You can make your own identity.

Because it is loneliness that destroys people, they feel that there should be someone who understands them, listens to their words, laughs and cried with them,

                                                      But trust me

We have come alone in this world, we have to go alone too, then what is the need of someone else, we have got such a beautiful creation, Our conscience which is so beautiful which is always with us then what is the need of anyone else.

The great man walks alone on his way. They manages themselves in happiness and sorrow with their own thoughts, Their  inspiration comes from their own thoughts.

Loneliness is such a boon through which we get a chance to know ourselves.

We are able to listen to ourselves, that means we are able to hear the voice of our conscience, after considering it, we can address it, and when we understand ourselves, then we are fully prepared to use our potential, and we become capable of doing any work.

No one can break our faith, and no one can stop us from being successful.

So friends, loneliness is a boon, if you get a chance to be alone, then make the most of it and do it in a positive direction.

 
                                                !!! Thank You !!!

Meri Adhuri Kitaab (मेरी अधूरी किताब)

We all want to do big in life but don't know what to do, sometimes we feel sad that we are not able to do what we want, but the question is why we are not able to do it ? ,What stopping us? I also wanted to write a book, but whenever I sit down to write... many thoughts run behind me and I stop writing keeping my paper and pen down.

हम सभी जीवन में बड़ा करना चाहते हैं लेकिन पता नहीं क्या करें, कभी-कभी हमें इस बात का दुख होता है कि हम जो चाहते हैं वह नहीं कर पा रहे हैं, लेकिन सवाल यह है कि हम ऐसा क्यों नहीं कर पाते हैं? , हमें क्या रोक रहा है? मै भी एक किताब लिखना चाहती थी, लेकिन जब भी मै लिखने बैठती , मेरे पीछे कई विचार दौड़ते हैं और मैं अपना कागज और कलम नीचे रखकर लिखना बंद कर देती  हूं। 

Here are some line written by me.

 

Hashrat thi apni jindagi ki likhu ek Kitaab,

Likhne baithee to sochi ,likhu kya isme ,

jakham  apno ke diye shabdo me pirou kaise,

Khuch lamhe haseen apne jo thee,

Yaad unko kar kalam tham si gayi,

Hasrate kitab fir se adhuri hi rah gayi.

हशरत थी अपनी जिंदगी की लिखू एक किताब, 

लिखने बैठी तो सोची, लिखू क्या इसमे, 

जखम अपनो के दिए शब्द में पिरोवु कैसे,

 कुछ लम्हे हसीन अपने जो थे,

 याद उनको कर कलम थम सी गई, 

हशरते किताब फिर से अधूरी ही रह गई।